How do you feel when you need to leave your office where you have worked for 15 years?
When friends finally decided to be apart?
When a group gets mad at you?
When your wife tells you, she don’t love you anymore?
Transition, Separation, Opposition and Rejection. The basic causes of LONELINESS.
There are Self-defeating ways to deal loneliness one is to become workaholic just to flop into bed exhausted at night. Some people try materialism, trying to purchase happiness. Some people have an affair, others turn to alcohol or drugs. These are the escape mechanisms. But eventually takes its toll physically and emotionally.
There are good ways to combat loneliness:
Utilize your time wisely. Resist the temptation to do nothing. Make the best of your bad situation. If life gives you a lemon, make lemonade. Whatever you can do, do it.
Minimize the hurt. Play down the loneliness. Do not allow the loneliness to make you bitter, and don’t allow resentment to build up in your life. It locks you in a self-imposed prison and drives people away which will make you lonelier.
Emphatize with other people’s needs. Instead of focusing inward on yourself, focus outward on other people. Start helping other lonely people. We need to stop building walls between us and others and start building bridges.
Recognize God’s presence. Loneliness is a signal that it’s time for us to become better acquainted with God. Talk to God and let Him speak to you.
May 19, 2011 re shuffling day from Solano to Aritao. I manage RBBI Solano branch for 15 years . The transition of leaving my home makes me feel so sad. To be separated with my clients and staff is a heartbreaking. I was in pain thinking it over and over again.
The very first thing that I did is to talk to God. I ask him the purpose of this situation?
During my first day, somebody talk to me on the phone asking why I left her? She was my Inang- a client from Solano. It is a heart warming.
Another client drove his motorcycle from Solano on the way to Aritao to seek an advice about his loan account.
I was introduced to clients of Aritao and greet me with a warmth welcome.
Another client confides her problem crying inside the office, it makes me feel I have a new mission.
These People needs me. Recognizing God, lead me the way to empathize with other people.
My MBA subject, Human Resource Management taught me that Re shuffling is a motivation technique to prevent work redundancy.
It’s a different feeling finding new people in a new place. Utilizing my time wisely is a way to minimize the hurt.
I am here to be a better person not a bitter person. God sometimes use loneliness for good….
